If there are still any left yes. They can still be eatenI would like to come down to Toa payoh to collect eggs tomorrow.. does anyone kW the eggs still can eat?
If there are still any left yes. They can still be eatenI would like to come down to Toa payoh to collect eggs tomorrow.. does anyone kW the eggs still can eat?
这个是赚钱的噱头。Baby才不管,实际上大人看了心痒痒要尝试新鲜住院环境。老师, 你看看! 这不是很恐怖,对吗?
Nepal, Kota Kinabalu是征兆。中南海南沙群岛、婆罗洲、East and West Coast of West Malaysia 很可会有事发生。近日灾祸连连不断。。要好好忏悔自己的过错,珍惜我们能够在新加坡好好的活着,珍惜所有关系你的人。
前来吊唁的人是应该安静的来、悄悄地离开。完全不需要向丧家打招呼或者bid farewell. 老师看过很多人猪头猪脑,要离开时还说再见, good bye, take-care, bye-bye, see you & etc.Toblerone 老师,您好!
我先生年16/17的表弟上星期因骨癌逝世。我们前天去吊唁。有几个想问的问题:-
1。我们临走前像亡者鞠躬。现在回想起来我们好像是做错了是吗?因为我看到前来吊唁的人都是悄悄地离开。
很好,你有读。2。从以前的post读过,不能带年幼的孩子吊唁/参加丧礼。我在吊唁的那晚看到我先生的表姐和她的两个年幼的孩子。请问,如果死者是亲戚,那怎么办?也或者,譬如死者是孩子的祖父母/曾祖父母? 还是要避?
有些父母/祖父母觉得没有必要去,就不参加。父母/祖父母去参加,也不用拜了。父母/祖父母跟亲戚朋友聊天是alright, only if they want to.3。好奇的也是, 所谓的“白发人不能送黑发人”,父母/祖父母 都是不能参加丧礼为死者送终的。那么其他年长的亲戚,例如姑妈,阿姨等能不能呢? 我的猜想是不行。但是不晓得对不对
Singapore的北部已被Peninsula包住. 不太会延伸到新加坡。老师说Mersing...就是说Changi, Pasir Ris & Punggol may experience a bit of trauma too?
前来吊唁的人是应该安静的来、悄悄地离开。完全不需要向丧家打招呼或者bid farewell. 老师看过很多人猪头猪脑,要离开时还说再见, good bye, take-care, bye-bye, see you & etc.
甚至有人去吊唁还要跟丧家whatsapp message/call约时间。"Are you at the wake? I am coming down."
回复你的问题。当时要看你的心态和意念去向亡者鞠躬。If your mind is thinking,
向往生者以鞠躬代表道别,这个就不行。要是往生者生前非常孝顺,向往生者以最后鞠躬代表尊敬的心态是ok.
另一种情况是,前去吊唁者还未向往生者表示敬意,等到要走时突然想起要去给往生者鞠躬的话,这个是可以接受。
“敬意”(respect)和“道别”(good-bye)是有差别的。明白了吗?
不然,一般上的人是安静的来,悄悄地离开。The customary art of attending wake/funeral is quietly
come, then MIA or smoke-out when is about time to leave.
很好,你有读。
往生者的姐姐带年幼孩子去拜一拜舅舅是可以的。往生者的直系亲属带年幼孩子去吊唁ok。要是是baby就留在家。
Since you brought this up. I share with you additional info:
Traditionally, 要是已嫁人的姐姐/妹妹往生的话,姐姐的弟弟或哥哥(母舅),是有权不要让夫家的人盖棺。甚至母舅也有权力,不用经过夫家批准,撬开姐姐/妹妹的棺木见最后一面。Husband has no say, wife's brothers have the final say. 当然,母舅必须合情合理才行。
Nowadays, most young Singaporeans don't know all these. Usually, heck-care and bo-charp.
有些父母/祖父母觉得没有必要去,就不参加。父母/祖父母去参加,也不用拜了。父母/祖父母跟亲戚朋友聊天是alright, only if they want to.
有些佛教的法师认为父母给孩子送终没有pantang说ok. 但是,老师学佛吃素不吃法师那套。老师认为无论什么宗教,父母最好是不要送终。If the deceased is the only child, then no choice. 能代办找人处理是最佳的办法。
To answer your question, 姑妈阿姨可以不拜也可以选择不送。
I share with you additional info:
抬棺木、移棺木、下葬、推去烧都是避忌。有真正拜师以及学法的人,比较不怕这些煞。
老师不建议人去看人抬棺木、移棺木、下葬、推去烧。现在的人傻傻,好奇爱看。If you tell them please don't see, they will challenge back "my eyes or your eyes, why I cannot see.".
很好,你做的对。Thank you Toblerone 老师!
I managed to read your post after I came back from the night service yesterday. can understand the difference between "saying goodbye" and bowing as a mark of respect. Although I saw your reply only after going for the night service yesterday, we didn't bow to the deceased again before leaving. I attempted to just quietly slink off but my hubby didnt get the hint, and he said that "ok we are making a move. need to work tomorrow". -_- and it so happened that his aunt (the deceased's mother) asked if we are going to attend the funeral. I was thinking "Arrrghh!!!" Anyway, I told my hubby that we are supposed to just leave quickly and quietly and not say anything.
有些人会那么认为,是可以理解的。I left my baby with my mom when I went for the wake. As it is my baby is spending the week at my mom's place because of convenience and partially because my mom and I are a bit worried as it is the wake of a teenage boy (my mom says this is really 白事, and it is a bit different from say, the wake of an 80 year old ah pek who has many children and grandchildren).
这法师还懂。The monks who were chanting the prayers last night emphasised that the funeral cannot be attended by the deceased's elders. Only those of his generation (i.e. cousins, brother ) can attend.
要推去烧的那刻,或者还没推去烧前,可以闭眼。可以的话,身转。As for not taking a look when the coffin is being lifted onto the hearse, that one I am aware. We usually are supposed to turn away as it is lifted onto the vehicle. As for watching the coffin being rolled into the furnace, I am not aware that we should not look at it but from my one and only experience at Mandai where my paternal grandmother's coffin is rolled into the furnace by a "conveyor belt" very slowly, I don't think I want to do it again because it really is just so sad. And the fact that it is done so slowly (I remember it being faster at Kong Meng San? I could be wrong though) makes it doubly sad for those watching . The emotions I felt back then were so intense that I told myself that I don't think I want to watch it again.
If you were to ask anybody, they will reason with you because you missed them 或者有压力。老师认识一位本地的心理医生,曾上电视节目和报纸。很久以前,老师晚上跟他去Siglap Java Coast喝咖啡聊天。心理医生跟老师说,他是佛教徒,相信有鬼神也怕鬼。但是,在受访和给病人看病时,必须要非常专业。老师也认识槟城有名的私人医院当Specialist. 他自己亲口承认看到鬼,还要讨符去烧。In summary, do all doctors scared of ghosts? The answer is an absolute 'no'. However, do some doctors scared of "hantu"? My answer is 100% affirmative.Also, I'd like to share my experience from my paternal grandmother's as well as my husband's cousin's wake. I thought what I experienced may have been a coincidence but after reading the posts in SMH, it may not be? I wonder.
a. Just as the both of them were about to breathe their last, I was by their side holding their hands etc. Thereafter, I have some difficulty falling asleep because I experience chills.
难道你去了wake之后,没照老师的话做吗?Past post mentioned.b. After I attended the wake last weekend, I had a lot of difficulty sleeping that particular night. Monday night was good, last night, average. I woke up for a while and had some difficulty falling back asleep for a while. It is a bit puzzling though, because I never experienced this before my paternal grandmother who passed away 3 years ago. When my maternal grandmother passed away almost 10 years ago, and when my maternal great grandmother passed away...maybe 5 or 7 yrs ago, I did not have difficulty sleeping after attendign their wakes.
不是老师要吓你,或许那东西在你左肩狠狠地敲/捏了一下。c. My left shoulder had a slight ache yesterday when I was at the funeral home when I was sitting at a particular spot. It somehow disappeared after I moved to another seat. Mount Vernon at night gives me the creeps -_-
很好!有小聪明。d. There was vegetarian food buffet yesterday. I remember one of your posts about how this fat guy was gorging himself silly with the curry chicken and you could see some entities enjoying the meal with him. The thought of it really just made me not want to eat. Anyway the fact is that I had dinner before I went for the wake and was feeling full. My hubby went to take a bit of the food though I was telling him "Wah, you are eating a lot ! Don't eat so much lah cos u had a lot for dinner" as a hint to not eat the food. I wonder if I am paranoid though!
1. 你丈夫的表弟得叫你家婆一生“阿姨”/“姑姑”。这样看来的话,没直系关系。要是你丈夫的表弟曾经给你家婆照顾,或者,你丈夫的表弟与你家婆关系很好的话,这样你家婆就要当心了。Toblerone, I am not sure of what your views are but my husband's cousin passed away on saturday morning. his body remained in his room till the evening when the undertaker came. my MIL was by his side (i.e. the body) in the room. I feel that it is quite creepy for the body to remain at home for so long. My hair is standing as I am typing.
有好几种情况求菩萨拜神:Hi Teacher...
I know children are blessing... But can I ask an opinion from you....
Do you believe in Praying to Zhu Sheng Niang Niang for having a particular gender of baby?
And if you do, how do we go about doing so? thank you so much for all your time, to advise everyone of us in this thread
有好几种情况求菩萨拜神:
1. 有人没怀孕,开始求.
2. 生了女儿不够还要求生男的。
3. 有则,没怀孕就开始挑性别了。
4. 怀了孕之后就期盼baby的性别。
命理注定有的该会有。
你可以尝试一下。求一行了。
I don't remember coming across the post on Mr Lee but I understand where you are coming from. A funeral is a funeral. It doesn't matter who you are,rich or poor, powerful or ordinary , young or old.很好,你做的对。
有些人会那么认为,是可以理解的。
实际上,80岁寿终和小伙子英年早逝没啥差别。都是白事 - 摆棺材、放死人。老师写了LKY的国葬,也是一样。难道你没读吗?国家元首的棺材煞,老师不想再提。
这法师还懂。
要推去烧的那刻,或者还没推去烧前,可以闭眼。可以的话,身转。
还可以更有保险的做法,老师就不写了。
If you were to ask anybody, they will reason with you because you missed them 或者有压力。老师认识一位本地的心理医生,曾上电视节目和报纸。很久以前,老师晚上跟他去Siglap Java Coast喝咖啡聊天。心理医生跟老师说,他是佛教徒,相信有鬼神也怕鬼。但是,在受访和给病人看病时,必须要非常专业。老师也认识槟城有名的私人医院当Specialist. 他自己亲口承认看到鬼,还要讨符去烧。In summary, do all doctors scared of ghosts? The answer is an absolute 'no'. However, do some doctors scared of "hantu"? My answer is 100% affirmative.
老师给讲你这个,是要你知道不是精神上的压力,更不是日想夜思造成的。你没法入眠的原因是,你接了死人的气场。不是大人才会,小孩也是一样! Have you seen baby/children in the middle-of night cannot sleep, cry and scream?
难道你去了wake之后,没照老师的话做吗?Past post mentioned.
不是老师要吓你,或许那东西在你左肩狠狠地敲/捏了一下。
这就为什么人的身上会无缘无故有orr-qii(黑青)、指甲抓痕等等。Similar post #25 (click here)
很好!有小聪明。
1. 你丈夫的表弟得叫你家婆一生“阿姨”/“姑姑”。这样看来的话,没直系关系。要是你丈夫的表弟曾经给你家婆照顾,或者,你丈夫的表弟与你家婆关系很好的话,这样你家婆就要当心了。
2. 怕只怕你家婆在你丈夫的表弟(往生者)耳里讲有的没的。要不然,就是一直摸他的大体。
3. 要是你家婆纯粹只是陪伴你丈夫的表弟的父母,那是没关系。老师这样讲,明白了吧?
Additional info:
像你叙说的这种情况,房子变了凶宅。在该单位被猝死、谋杀、自杀、跳楼等等的话,屋子就凶上加凶。The biggest problem among many people buying resale flat/house 就是凶宅。香港人和台湾人很怕买‘凶宅’。一旦是‘凶宅’,卖不出的。In Singapore, nobody cares.
There are two types of people buying flats:
第一种. 就算知道是有人死,也不怕。不管那么多,硬硬要住。Theses are the stubborn and non-believers.
第二种. 不知道房子内有人死,买房子之前,没有跟neighbours打招呼问房子的历史,最后傻傻听housing agent的甜言蜜语。
TPY双林寺城隍庙的注生娘娘应你,可以再回去祈求。Now I want to try to conceive my second child, Do I need to go back to Toa Payoh Zhu Sheng Niang Niang temple to pray? Or Can I go to Tanjong Pagar one?
just want to double check. thank you so much
Point 5 Post #1945 (click here).I don't remember coming across the post on Mr Lee but I understand where you are coming from.
正确。白事终究是白事。A funeral is a funeral. It doesn't matter who you are,rich or poor, powerful or ordinary , young or old.
是有好几种方法可以"劈丧"。老师通常建议人去人多的地方。去咖啡店坐。Mustafa Centre最好,晚上11、12点还是很多人。After going to thr wake my hubby and I didn't go straight home. We went to the nearby mall , got some hot chocolate at Starbucks , sat there for abt 5 mins Before going home cos it was closing alrdy. on the first night of the wake we made a detour to the ntuc and the mother care shop at the mall. tjen go home , shower and change. did we miss out anything ?
你妈说的是正确。my mil is his姑妈。she doted a lot on him . But as to what exactly she did in his room I am not sure cos I was not thrre. my mom did previously tell me that when a person is about to go , don't do anything that will make the person want to linger on. e.g.cry etc etc. Not sure of what your thoughts are but I vaguely remember reading a book which said something along the lines of although a person is dead (just passed away), his energy /soul is still lurking nearby . so if u cry very loudly, there is "disturbance".
呵呵... 一些人爱看嘛,可以看到够本。your comment on the 凶宅was exactly what I was thinking. and u know about your previous post abt people challenging u when u tell them that they shld avoid looking at the coffin before it goes into the furnace etc ?
听妈妈的话,不会吃亏的。i am reminded of my sister who argued with my mom when my mom commented that the elders cannot attend the funeral. she said sth likea why the parents cannot see their child off etc. my mom tried to explain to her that no matter what we have to respect the fact that there is a hierarchy (长幼之分)。it is already a sin to pass away before your parents before you repay them for their upbringing. and u expect ur parents to be filled with grief to see u off on ur final journey..
还要讲得更明白吗?呵呵...Den 2 days ago when I chanted the sama para with the correct character I heard baby cries a few times. I'm not sure if it is a faraway neighbours baby or what because once I stop chanting I don't hear anymore. If it was neighbour's baby what does it mean ; if it is not, what does it mean?? I'm quite concerned and worried. Did I chant anything wrongly that affect somebody's baby or ?
这是典型的‘回向偈’了。这段留给尼姑和尚念吧。This is what I was taught but now with the correct word :
南无观世音菩萨
观世音菩萨
愿消三障诸烦恼
愿得智慧真明了
普愿罪障悉消除
世世常行菩萨道
开大智慧
还要讲得更明白吗?呵呵...
这是典型的‘回向偈’了。这段留给尼姑和尚念吧。
这句哗出去,类似“我这里有免费的kopi kaya roti, 大快朵颐随便吃。”
understood about the part on going to a crowded place! point notedPoint 5 Post #1945 (click here).
正确。白事终究是白事。
是有好几种方法可以"劈丧"。老师通常建议人去人多的地方。去咖啡店坐。Mustafa Centre最好,晚上11、12点还是很多人。
老师举个简单的例子。就好像人不知觉踩到scotch tape. 需要别人替你踩掉脚板的scotch tape的话,就要到人多的地方。The more people the merrier, the likelihood the scotch tape will come off from your foot effortlessly. 明白这个意思了吧?
你妈说的是正确。
人不能蹲在棺材旁哭。更不能对死人乱讲话。
看看新闻报道,抱棺材痛哭、眼泪滴到棺木、一直kiss棺材、“dear honey/baby, daddy and mummy always loves you”,“daddy and mummy owes you, please be my child again” blah blah blah... 这些真的很糟糕。
from my understanding yes u take the red thread and then u "lose" it along the way老师晚安,不好意思插播这帖。去完白事后,桌上的红线带走是否如法? 刚才去了白事,我拿走红线,之后丢掉。谢谢老师。
一桌会员唧唧喳喳, 嘻嘻哈哈, 吃吃喝喝。为了不说话,我只好看手机 be anti social, 然后乘家人打来时, slowly smoke out 去 pasar malam. 吩咐的都做了。感恩老师。
Hi toblerone老师,
We just attended the childbirth course from the hospital. I had a shock from the nutritionist! She was talking about the supplement that we had. One of the vitamin from the supplement we have is vitamin b12..she said vitamin b12 comes from seashell or from animals!!! 哪我们不是功亏一篑了吗????
Hi applegreen,
The vegetarian confinement nanny that u recommended to me told me that she wants my wife to take DOM during confinement. But the nutriutionist told us that not to take alcohol during confinement as it will affect the breastsmilk! So i am in diliema now..who should i listen to???....
Thanks all.
Hi toblerone老师,
We just attended the childbirth course from the hospital. I had a shock from the nutritionist! She was talking about the supplement that we had. One of the vitamin from the supplement we have is vitamin b12..she said vitamin b12 comes from seashell or from animals!!! 哪我们不是功亏一篑了吗????
Hi applegreen,
The vegetarian confinement nanny that u recommended to me told me that she wants my wife to take DOM during confinement. But the nutriutionist told us that not to take alcohol during confinement as it will affect the breastsmilk! So i am in diliema now..who should i listen to???....
Thanks all.
地壳移动,多半有风/雨。Teacher base on your #2166 prediction.....
..is it coming? http://www.scmp.com/news/hong-kong/...-kong-bracing-ill-weather-2-cyclones-tropical
听你妈的话,不会吃亏。Teacher, my parents keep telling me..if baby is cute & very guai and quiet..they ask me to be quiet...do not say that baby so cute & whatever remarks I made must be quiet...
孩子出世,即无胎神。is it because of the 胎神 around?
这样很好。最起码得肉边菜。很多人一生当中,没吃牛的,活着还是很健康。老师您好。我一直在念心经,大悲咒和准提咒。现在已有5个月的生孕,这是第二胎,是个男宝宝。我很想跟老师学保胎经,不过我没有保握吃全素, 所以不敢承诺。早餐和午餐尽量吃素或肉边菜。我也承诺不吃羊肉(怀第一胎的时候我戒掉牛肉)
大乘汉传佛教的《梵网经菩萨戒本》、《楞伽经》、《涅盘经》、《楞伽经》以及《楞严经》已经记载,不应吃众生肉。Strictly prohibited in eating meat.1。我每天上班在mrt念两次心经,一次大悲咒。rest of the day 念准提咒。我明白经有如药,念深什么经,念几次都重要。我没吃全素,如果没什么易处及少不想给胎儿带来害处。我这样做可以吗?
很好,带一家大小给菩萨神明普照啊!完全免费!就好像手机没电,needs to be recharged. 寺庙磁场好,多接近有益处。天天去拜、每次烧香、每次磕头,confirm每天charge.2。我有带老公和1.5 yr old daughter常去盛港崇义庙,照老师教的方式跟神明打招呼,拜拜。my daughter will follow us n kneel down n put her palms together but afterwards she stand up n walk/run in and out of the temple section. 我马上跟神明道歉,说孩子小不懂事,如有冒犯,请多多原谅。这样可以吗?还是暂时不要带孩子去好?