Zhu Sheng Niang Niang (注生娘娘)


Hi gemson,

Before you want to start chanting, I would suggest you need to be full vegetarian throughout. Are you able to commit this?
 
老师, 你看看! 这不是很恐怖,对吗?
这个是赚钱的噱头。Baby才不管,实际上大人看了心痒痒要尝试新鲜住院环境。

Hello Kitty主题的Hospital给产妇暂住。“公仔”(广东话)不是摆在家还好。

18/6上映的Poltergeist,戏里面儿子和小女儿的房间放一大堆"arng-korng-kiia". 真的是伤脑筋了。

近日灾祸连连不断。。要好好忏悔自己的过错,珍惜我们能够在新加坡好好的活着,珍惜所有关系你的人。
Nepal, Kota Kinabalu是征兆。中南海南沙群岛、婆罗洲、East and West Coast of West Malaysia 很可会有事发生。

最近的地震南亚区域:
1. Mount Sinabung, Indonesia
2. E of Chichi-shima Japan

若North Sumatra地壳有波动的话,马六甲周围就受波及。
要是中南海南沙群岛附近地壳有波动的话,婆罗洲、Kota Bahru to Mersing就受影响。越南、泰南kenna不奇怪。

乙未年 壬午月
乙未年 癸未月

六十年才碰到一次。即使是拖延到明年 not surprising.

In the next 6 months (year 2015), 尽量不要除外旅游(中南海地区)。东马、越南、文莱、韩国、日本、香港、菲律宾、台湾、澳门等等。 能不去就不去。
 
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Toblerone 老师,您好!
我先生年16/17的表弟上星期因骨癌逝世。我们前天去吊唁。有几个想问的问题:-
1。我们临走前像亡者鞠躬。现在回想起来我们好像是做错了是吗?因为我看到前来吊唁的人都是悄悄地离开。
2。从以前的post读过,不能带年幼的孩子吊唁/参加丧礼。我在吊唁的那晚看到我先生的表姐和她的两个年幼的孩子。请问,如果死者是亲戚,那怎么办?也或者,譬如死者是孩子的祖父母/曾祖父母? 还是要避?
3。好奇的也是, 所谓的“白发人不能送黑发人”,父母/祖父母 都是不能参加丧礼为死者送终的。那么其他年长的亲戚,例如姑妈,阿姨等能不能呢? 我的猜想是不行。但是不晓得对不对
 
Toblerone 老师,您好!
我先生年16/17的表弟上星期因骨癌逝世。我们前天去吊唁。有几个想问的问题:-
1。我们临走前像亡者鞠躬。现在回想起来我们好像是做错了是吗?因为我看到前来吊唁的人都是悄悄地离开。
前来吊唁的人是应该安静的来、悄悄地离开。完全不需要向丧家打招呼或者bid farewell. 老师看过很多人猪头猪脑,要离开时还说再见, good bye, take-care, bye-bye, see you & etc.

甚至有人去吊唁还要跟丧家whatsapp message/call约时间。"Are you at the wake? I am coming down."

回复你的问题。当时要看你的心态和意念去向亡者鞠躬。If your mind is thinking,
向往生者以鞠躬代表道别,这个就不行。要是往生者生前非常孝顺,向往生者以最后鞠躬代表尊敬的心态是ok.

另一种情况是,前去吊唁者还未向往生者表示敬意,等到要走时突然想起要去给往生者鞠躬的话,这个是可以接受。

“敬意”(respect)和“道别”(good-bye)是有差别的。明白了吗?

不然,一般上的人是安静的来,悄悄地离开。The customary art of attending wake/funeral is quietly
come, then MIA or smoke-out when is about time to leave.

2。从以前的post读过,不能带年幼的孩子吊唁/参加丧礼。我在吊唁的那晚看到我先生的表姐和她的两个年幼的孩子。请问,如果死者是亲戚,那怎么办?也或者,譬如死者是孩子的祖父母/曾祖父母? 还是要避?
很好,你有读。
往生者的姐姐带年幼孩子去拜一拜舅舅是可以的。往生者的直系亲属带年幼孩子去吊唁ok。要是是baby就留在家。

Since you brought this up. I share with you additional info:
Traditionally, 要是已嫁人的姐姐/妹妹往生的话,姐姐的弟弟或哥哥(母舅),是有权不要让夫家的人盖棺。甚至母舅也有权力,不用经过夫家批准,撬开姐姐/妹妹的棺木见最后一面。Husband has no say, wife's brothers have the final say. 当然,母舅必须合情合理才行。

Nowadays, most young Singaporeans don't know all these. Usually, heck-care and bo-charp.

3。好奇的也是, 所谓的“白发人不能送黑发人”,父母/祖父母 都是不能参加丧礼为死者送终的。那么其他年长的亲戚,例如姑妈,阿姨等能不能呢? 我的猜想是不行。但是不晓得对不对
有些父母/祖父母觉得没有必要去,就不参加。父母/祖父母去参加,也不用拜了。父母/祖父母跟亲戚朋友聊天是alright, only if they want to.

有些佛教的法师认为父母给孩子送终没有pantang说ok. 但是,老师学佛吃素不吃法师那套。老师认为无论什么宗教,父母最好是不要送终。If the deceased is the only child, then no choice. 能代办找人处理是最佳的办法。

To answer your question, 姑妈阿姨可以不拜也可以选择不送。

I share with you additional info:
抬棺木、移棺木、下葬、推去烧都是避忌。有真正拜师以及学法的人,比较不怕这些煞。

老师不建议人去看人抬棺木、移棺木、下葬、推去烧。现在的人傻傻,好奇爱看。If you tell them please don't see, they will challenge back "my eyes or your eyes, why I cannot see.".
 
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Hi Teacher...

I know children are blessing... But can I ask an opinion from you....
Do you believe in Praying to Zhu Sheng Niang Niang for having a particular gender of baby?
And if you do, how do we go about doing so? thank you so much for all your time, to advise everyone of us in this thread
 
前来吊唁的人是应该安静的来、悄悄地离开。完全不需要向丧家打招呼或者bid farewell. 老师看过很多人猪头猪脑,要离开时还说再见, good bye, take-care, bye-bye, see you & etc.

甚至有人去吊唁还要跟丧家whatsapp message/call约时间。"Are you at the wake? I am coming down."

回复你的问题。当时要看你的心态和意念去向亡者鞠躬。If your mind is thinking,
向往生者以鞠躬代表道别,这个就不行。要是往生者生前非常孝顺,向往生者以最后鞠躬代表尊敬的心态是ok.

另一种情况是,前去吊唁者还未向往生者表示敬意,等到要走时突然想起要去给往生者鞠躬的话,这个是可以接受。

“敬意”(respect)和“道别”(good-bye)是有差别的。明白了吗?

不然,一般上的人是安静的来,悄悄地离开。The customary art of attending wake/funeral is quietly
come, then MIA or smoke-out when is about time to leave.

很好,你有读。
往生者的姐姐带年幼孩子去拜一拜舅舅是可以的。往生者的直系亲属带年幼孩子去吊唁ok。要是是baby就留在家。

Since you brought this up. I share with you additional info:
Traditionally, 要是已嫁人的姐姐/妹妹往生的话,姐姐的弟弟或哥哥(母舅),是有权不要让夫家的人盖棺。甚至母舅也有权力,不用经过夫家批准,撬开姐姐/妹妹的棺木见最后一面。Husband has no say, wife's brothers have the final say. 当然,母舅必须合情合理才行。

Nowadays, most young Singaporeans don't know all these. Usually, heck-care and bo-charp.


有些父母/祖父母觉得没有必要去,就不参加。父母/祖父母去参加,也不用拜了。父母/祖父母跟亲戚朋友聊天是alright, only if they want to.

有些佛教的法师认为父母给孩子送终没有pantang说ok. 但是,老师学佛吃素不吃法师那套。老师认为无论什么宗教,父母最好是不要送终。If the deceased is the only child, then no choice. 能代办找人处理是最佳的办法。

To answer your question, 姑妈阿姨可以不拜也可以选择不送。

I share with you additional info:
抬棺木、移棺木、下葬、推去烧都是避忌。有真正拜师以及学法的人,比较不怕这些煞。

老师不建议人去看人抬棺木、移棺木、下葬、推去烧。现在的人傻傻,好奇爱看。If you tell them please don't see, they will challenge back "my eyes or your eyes, why I cannot see.".

Thank you Toblerone 老师!
I managed to read your post after I came back from the night service yesterday. can understand the difference between "saying goodbye" and bowing as a mark of respect. Although I saw your reply only after going for the night service yesterday, we didn't bow to the deceased again before leaving. I attempted to just quietly slink off but my hubby didnt get the hint, and he said that "ok we are making a move. need to work tomorrow". -_- and it so happened that his aunt (the deceased's mother) asked if we are going to attend the funeral. I was thinking "Arrrghh!!!" Anyway, I told my hubby that we are supposed to just leave quickly and quietly and not say anything.

I left my baby with my mom when I went for the wake. As it is my baby is spending the week at my mom's place because of convenience and partially because my mom and I are a bit worried as it is the wake of a teenage boy (my mom says this is really 白事, and it is a bit different from say, the wake of an 80 year old ah pek who has many children and grandchildren).

The monks who were chanting the prayers last night emphasised that the funeral cannot be attended by the deceased's elders. Only those of his generation (i.e. cousins, brother ) can attend.
As for not taking a look when the coffin is being lifted onto the hearse, that one I am aware. We usually are supposed to turn away as it is lifted onto the vehicle. As for watching the coffin being rolled into the furnace, I am not aware that we should not look at it but from my one and only experience at Mandai where my paternal grandmother's coffin is rolled into the furnace by a "conveyor belt" very slowly, I don't think I want to do it again because it really is just so sad. And the fact that it is done so slowly (I remember it being faster at Kong Meng San? I could be wrong though) makes it doubly sad for those watching . The emotions I felt back then were so intense that I told myself that I don't think I want to watch it again.

Also, I'd like to share my experience from my paternal grandmother's as well as my husband's cousin's wake. I thought what I experienced may have been a coincidence but after reading the posts in SMH, it may not be? I wonder.

a. Just as the both of them were about to breathe their last, I was by their side holding their hands etc. Thereafter, I have some difficulty falling asleep because I experience chills.
b. After I attended the wake last weekend, I had a lot of difficulty sleeping that particular night. Monday night was good, last night, average. I woke up for a while and had some difficulty falling back asleep for a while. It is a bit puzzling though, because I never experienced this before my paternal grandmother who passed away 3 years ago. When my maternal grandmother passed away almost 10 years ago, and when my maternal great grandmother passed away...maybe 5 or 7 yrs ago, I did not have difficulty sleeping after attendign their wakes.
c. My left shoulder had a slight ache yesterday when I was at the funeral home when I was sitting at a particular spot. It somehow disappeared after I moved to another seat. Mount Vernon at night gives me the creeps -_-
d. There was vegetarian food buffet yesterday. I remember one of your posts about how this fat guy was gorging himself silly with the curry chicken and you could see some entities enjoying the meal with him. The thought of it really just made me not want to eat. Anyway the fact is that I had dinner before I went for the wake and was feeling full. My hubby went to take a bit of the food though I was telling him "Wah, you are eating a lot ! Don't eat so much lah cos u had a lot for dinner" as a hint to not eat the food. I wonder if I am paranoid though!

Toblerone, I am not sure of what your views are but my husband's cousin passed away on saturday morning. his body remained in his room till the evening when the undertaker came. my MIL was by his side (i.e. the body) in the room. I feel that it is quite creepy for the body to remain at home for so long. My hair is standing as I am typing.
 
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Thank you Toblerone 老师!
I managed to read your post after I came back from the night service yesterday. can understand the difference between "saying goodbye" and bowing as a mark of respect. Although I saw your reply only after going for the night service yesterday, we didn't bow to the deceased again before leaving. I attempted to just quietly slink off but my hubby didnt get the hint, and he said that "ok we are making a move. need to work tomorrow". -_- and it so happened that his aunt (the deceased's mother) asked if we are going to attend the funeral. I was thinking "Arrrghh!!!" Anyway, I told my hubby that we are supposed to just leave quickly and quietly and not say anything.
很好,你做的对。


I left my baby with my mom when I went for the wake. As it is my baby is spending the week at my mom's place because of convenience and partially because my mom and I are a bit worried as it is the wake of a teenage boy (my mom says this is really 白事, and it is a bit different from say, the wake of an 80 year old ah pek who has many children and grandchildren).
有些人会那么认为,是可以理解的。

实际上,80岁寿终和小伙子英年早逝没啥差别。都是白事 - 摆棺材、放死人。老师写了LKY的国葬,也是一样。难道你没读吗?国家元首的棺材煞,老师不想再提。


The monks who were chanting the prayers last night emphasised that the funeral cannot be attended by the deceased's elders. Only those of his generation (i.e. cousins, brother ) can attend.
这法师还懂。

As for not taking a look when the coffin is being lifted onto the hearse, that one I am aware. We usually are supposed to turn away as it is lifted onto the vehicle. As for watching the coffin being rolled into the furnace, I am not aware that we should not look at it but from my one and only experience at Mandai where my paternal grandmother's coffin is rolled into the furnace by a "conveyor belt" very slowly, I don't think I want to do it again because it really is just so sad. And the fact that it is done so slowly (I remember it being faster at Kong Meng San? I could be wrong though) makes it doubly sad for those watching . The emotions I felt back then were so intense that I told myself that I don't think I want to watch it again.
要推去烧的那刻,或者还没推去烧前,可以闭眼。可以的话,身转。

还可以更有保险的做法,老师就不写了。

Also, I'd like to share my experience from my paternal grandmother's as well as my husband's cousin's wake. I thought what I experienced may have been a coincidence but after reading the posts in SMH, it may not be? I wonder.

a. Just as the both of them were about to breathe their last, I was by their side holding their hands etc. Thereafter, I have some difficulty falling asleep because I experience chills.
If you were to ask anybody, they will reason with you because you missed them 或者有压力。老师认识一位本地的心理医生,曾上电视节目和报纸。很久以前,老师晚上跟他去Siglap Java Coast喝咖啡聊天。心理医生跟老师说,他是佛教徒,相信有鬼神也怕鬼。但是,在受访和给病人看病时,必须要非常专业。老师也认识槟城有名的私人医院当Specialist. 他自己亲口承认看到鬼,还要讨符去烧。In summary, do all doctors scared of ghosts? The answer is an absolute 'no'. However, do some doctors scared of "hantu"? My answer is 100% affirmative.

老师给讲你这个,是要你知道不是精神上的压力,更不是日想夜思造成的。你没法入眠的原因是,你接了死人的气场。不是大人才会,小孩也是一样! Have you seen baby/children in the middle-of night cannot sleep, cry and scream?

b. After I attended the wake last weekend, I had a lot of difficulty sleeping that particular night. Monday night was good, last night, average. I woke up for a while and had some difficulty falling back asleep for a while. It is a bit puzzling though, because I never experienced this before my paternal grandmother who passed away 3 years ago. When my maternal grandmother passed away almost 10 years ago, and when my maternal great grandmother passed away...maybe 5 or 7 yrs ago, I did not have difficulty sleeping after attendign their wakes.
难道你去了wake之后,没照老师的话做吗?Past post mentioned.

c. My left shoulder had a slight ache yesterday when I was at the funeral home when I was sitting at a particular spot. It somehow disappeared after I moved to another seat. Mount Vernon at night gives me the creeps -_-
不是老师要吓你,或许那东西在你左肩狠狠地敲/捏了一下。

这就为什么人的身上会无缘无故有orr-qii(黑青)、指甲抓痕等等。Similar post #25 (click here)

d. There was vegetarian food buffet yesterday. I remember one of your posts about how this fat guy was gorging himself silly with the curry chicken and you could see some entities enjoying the meal with him. The thought of it really just made me not want to eat. Anyway the fact is that I had dinner before I went for the wake and was feeling full. My hubby went to take a bit of the food though I was telling him "Wah, you are eating a lot ! Don't eat so much lah cos u had a lot for dinner" as a hint to not eat the food. I wonder if I am paranoid though!
很好!有小聪明。

Toblerone, I am not sure of what your views are but my husband's cousin passed away on saturday morning. his body remained in his room till the evening when the undertaker came. my MIL was by his side (i.e. the body) in the room. I feel that it is quite creepy for the body to remain at home for so long. My hair is standing as I am typing.
1. 你丈夫的表弟得叫你家婆一生“阿姨”/“姑姑”。这样看来的话,没直系关系。要是你丈夫的表弟曾经给你家婆照顾,或者,你丈夫的表弟与你家婆关系很好的话,这样你家婆就要当心了。

2. 怕只怕你家婆在你丈夫的表弟(往生者)耳里讲有的没的。要不然,就是一直摸他的大体。

3. 要是你家婆纯粹只是陪伴你丈夫的表弟的父母,那是没关系。老师这样讲,明白了吧?

Additional info:
像你叙说的这种情况,房子变了凶宅。在该单位被猝死、谋杀、自杀、跳楼等等的话,屋子就凶上加凶。The biggest problem among many people buying resale flat/house 就是凶宅。香港人和台湾人很怕买‘凶宅’。一旦是‘凶宅’,卖不出的。In Singapore, nobody cares.

There are two types of people buying flats:
第一种. 就算知道是有人死,也不怕。不管那么多,硬硬要住。Theses are the stubborn and non-believers.
第二种. 不知道房子内有人死,买房子之前,没有跟neighbours打招呼问房子的历史,最后傻傻听housing agent的甜言蜜语。
 
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Hi Teacher...
I know children are blessing... But can I ask an opinion from you....
Do you believe in Praying to Zhu Sheng Niang Niang for having a particular gender of baby?
And if you do, how do we go about doing so? thank you so much for all your time, to advise everyone of us in this thread
有好几种情况求菩萨拜神:

1. 有人没怀孕,开始求.
2. 生了女儿不够还要求生男的。
3. 有则,没怀孕就开始挑性别了。
4. 怀了孕之后就期盼baby的性别。

命理注定有的该会有。

你可以尝试。求子一次行了。神明菩萨不会像我们人那样forgetful. Human beings do eveything must double and triple confirm.

平时拜神明菩萨,不用祈求东问西(no need I wish this or I want that)。很简单的,忏悔、磕头、答谢罢了。很多人跪都不跪,seek for forgiveness死都不开口的。
 
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有好几种情况求菩萨拜神:

1. 有人没怀孕,开始求.
2. 生了女儿不够还要求生男的。
3. 有则,没怀孕就开始挑性别了。
4. 怀了孕之后就期盼baby的性别。

命理注定有的该会有。

你可以尝试一下。求一行了。

谢谢你, 老师。。。。
 
Hi Lao shi... can I ask one more question?
For conceiving my first child, I went to Toa Payoh Zhu Sheng Niang Niang Temple. After i delivered my baby, i returned 100 eggs.

Now I want to try to conceive my second child, Do I need to go back to Toa Payoh Zhu Sheng Niang Niang temple to pray? Or Can I go to Tanjong Pagar one?
just want to double check. thank you so much
 
很好,你做的对。



有些人会那么认为,是可以理解的。

实际上,80岁寿终和小伙子英年早逝没啥差别。都是白事 - 摆棺材、放死人。老师写了LKY的国葬,也是一样。难道你没读吗?国家元首的棺材煞,老师不想再提。



这法师还懂。


要推去烧的那刻,或者还没推去烧前,可以闭眼。可以的话,身转。

还可以更有保险的做法,老师就不写了。


If you were to ask anybody, they will reason with you because you missed them 或者有压力。老师认识一位本地的心理医生,曾上电视节目和报纸。很久以前,老师晚上跟他去Siglap Java Coast喝咖啡聊天。心理医生跟老师说,他是佛教徒,相信有鬼神也怕鬼。但是,在受访和给病人看病时,必须要非常专业。老师也认识槟城有名的私人医院当Specialist. 他自己亲口承认看到鬼,还要讨符去烧。In summary, do all doctors scared of ghosts? The answer is an absolute 'no'. However, do some doctors scared of "hantu"? My answer is 100% affirmative.

老师给讲你这个,是要你知道不是精神上的压力,更不是日想夜思造成的。你没法入眠的原因是,你接了死人的气场。不是大人才会,小孩也是一样! Have you seen baby/children in the middle-of night cannot sleep, cry and scream?


难道你去了wake之后,没照老师的话做吗?Past post mentioned.


不是老师要吓你,或许那东西在你左肩狠狠地敲/捏了一下。

这就为什么人的身上会无缘无故有orr-qii(黑青)、指甲抓痕等等。Similar post #25 (click here)


很好!有小聪明。


1. 你丈夫的表弟得叫你家婆一生“阿姨”/“姑姑”。这样看来的话,没直系关系。要是你丈夫的表弟曾经给你家婆照顾,或者,你丈夫的表弟与你家婆关系很好的话,这样你家婆就要当心了。

2. 怕只怕你家婆在你丈夫的表弟(往生者)耳里讲有的没的。要不然,就是一直摸他的大体。

3. 要是你家婆纯粹只是陪伴你丈夫的表弟的父母,那是没关系。老师这样讲,明白了吧?

Additional info:
像你叙说的这种情况,房子变了凶宅。在该单位被猝死、谋杀、自杀、跳楼等等的话,屋子就凶上加凶。The biggest problem among many people buying resale flat/house 就是凶宅。香港人和台湾人很怕买‘凶宅’。一旦是‘凶宅’,卖不出的。In Singapore, nobody cares.

There are two types of people buying flats:
第一种. 就算知道是有人死,也不怕。不管那么多,硬硬要住。Theses are the stubborn and non-believers.
第二种. 不知道房子内有人死,买房子之前,没有跟neighbours打招呼问房子的历史,最后傻傻听housing agent的甜言蜜语。
I don't remember coming across the post on Mr Lee but I understand where you are coming from. A funeral is a funeral. It doesn't matter who you are,rich or poor, powerful or ordinary , young or old.
After going to thr wake my hubby and I didn't go straight home. We went to the nearby mall , got some hot chocolate at Starbucks , sat there for abt 5 mins Before going home cos it was closing alrdy. on the first night of the wake we made a detour to the ntuc and the mother care shop at the mall. tjen go home , shower and change. did we miss out anything ?
my mil is his姑妈。she doted a lot on him . But as to what exactly she did in his room I am not sure cos I was not thrre. my mom did previously tell me that when a person is about to go , don't do anything that will make the person want to linger on. e.g.cry etc etc. Not sure of what your thoughts are but I vaguely remember reading a book which said something along the lines of although a person is dead (just passed away), his energy /soul is still lurking nearby . so if u cry very loudly, there is "disturbance".
your comment on the 凶宅was exactly what I was thinking. and u know about your previous post abt people challenging u when u tell them that they shld avoid looking at the coffin before it goes into the furnace etc ? i am reminded of my sister who argued with my mom when my mom commented that the elders cannot attend the funeral. she said sth likea why the parents cannot see their child off etc. my mom tried to explain to her that no matter what we have to respect the fact that there is a hierarchy (长幼之分)。it is already a sin to pass away before your parents before you repay them for their upbringing. and u expect ur parents to be filled with grief to see u off on ur final journey..
 
老师,请问念心经要回向吗?因为之前thread say we should not because we are still 'elementary'.

Also cuz of this I have another question (realise I didn't post it here. I got a sudden interest after I read the first few pages where you were advising on 念经 .after I got interested I went to google. Because when I was young, an aunt once teach me a paragraph to chant with beads and I then chanted for over 10 yrs. Recent 10 years I chanted lesser. And because of what I read I wanted to find out what I was taught to chant and I found that it is a part of 回向文。From what I read in forum and google it seems that it should be chanted after a 经. And in the paragraph that I was taught to chant by the aunt, I also found a mistake in 1 of the characters. So I don't know whether I have been chanting wrongly for past 20 yrs and any impact.

Den 2 days ago when I chanted the sama para with the correct character I heard baby cries a few times. I'm not sure if it is a faraway neighbours baby or what because once I stop chanting I don't hear anymore. If it was neighbour's baby what does it mean ; if it is not, what does it mean?? I'm quite concerned and worried. Did I chant anything wrongly that affect somebody's baby or ?

This is what I was taught but now with the correct word :
南无观世音菩萨
观世音菩萨
愿消三障诸烦恼
愿得智慧真明了
普愿罪障悉消除
世世常行菩萨道
开大智慧
Please advise if there is anything wrong or whether I should stop chanting this.

Thank you very much!
 
Now I want to try to conceive my second child, Do I need to go back to Toa Payoh Zhu Sheng Niang Niang temple to pray? Or Can I go to Tanjong Pagar one?
just want to double check. thank you so much
TPY双林寺城隍庙的注生娘娘应你,可以再回去祈求。

要去Tanjong Pagar城隍庙求注生娘娘也行。看你常去的是哪间。或者,就固定那一、两间你去的。
 
I don't remember coming across the post on Mr Lee but I understand where you are coming from.
Point 5 Post #1945 (click here).

A funeral is a funeral. It doesn't matter who you are,rich or poor, powerful or ordinary , young or old.
正确。白事终究是白事。

After going to thr wake my hubby and I didn't go straight home. We went to the nearby mall , got some hot chocolate at Starbucks , sat there for abt 5 mins Before going home cos it was closing alrdy. on the first night of the wake we made a detour to the ntuc and the mother care shop at the mall. tjen go home , shower and change. did we miss out anything ?
是有好几种方法可以"劈丧"。老师通常建议人去人多的地方。去咖啡店坐。Mustafa Centre最好,晚上11、12点还是很多人。

老师举个简单的例子。就好像人不知觉踩到scotch tape. 需要别人替你踩掉脚板的scotch tape的话,就要到人多的地方。The more people the merrier, the likelihood the scotch tape will come off from your foot effortlessly. 明白这个意思了吧?

my mil is his姑妈。she doted a lot on him . But as to what exactly she did in his room I am not sure cos I was not thrre. my mom did previously tell me that when a person is about to go , don't do anything that will make the person want to linger on. e.g.cry etc etc. Not sure of what your thoughts are but I vaguely remember reading a book which said something along the lines of although a person is dead (just passed away), his energy /soul is still lurking nearby . so if u cry very loudly, there is "disturbance".
你妈说的是正确。

人不能蹲在棺材旁哭。更不能对死人乱讲话。

看看新闻报道,抱棺材痛哭、眼泪滴到棺木、一直kiss棺材、“dear honey/baby, daddy and mummy always loves you”,“daddy and mummy owes you, please be my child again” blah blah blah... 这些真的很糟糕。
 
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your comment on the 凶宅was exactly what I was thinking. and u know about your previous post abt people challenging u when u tell them that they shld avoid looking at the coffin before it goes into the furnace etc ?
呵呵... 一些人爱看嘛,可以看到够本。
人要自由嘛,每天爱抽两包Malboro, watch 24hrs pornography, nobody is stopping.

这个世界上不是所有的人相信鬼神。新加坡没有全部的人认同政府的政策。同样的,不是一个人所说的话全部的人得认同。

i am reminded of my sister who argued with my mom when my mom commented that the elders cannot attend the funeral. she said sth likea why the parents cannot see their child off etc. my mom tried to explain to her that no matter what we have to respect the fact that there is a hierarchy (长幼之分)。it is already a sin to pass away before your parents before you repay them for their upbringing. and u expect ur parents to be filled with grief to see u off on ur final journey..
听妈妈的话,不会吃亏的。
 
Den 2 days ago when I chanted the sama para with the correct character I heard baby cries a few times. I'm not sure if it is a faraway neighbours baby or what because once I stop chanting I don't hear anymore. If it was neighbour's baby what does it mean ; if it is not, what does it mean?? I'm quite concerned and worried. Did I chant anything wrongly that affect somebody's baby or ?
还要讲得更明白吗?呵呵...

This is what I was taught but now with the correct word :
南无观世音菩萨
观世音菩萨
愿消三障诸烦恼
愿得智慧真明了
普愿罪障悉消除
世世常行菩萨道
开大智慧
这是典型的‘回向偈’了。这段留给尼姑和尚念吧。

这句哗出去,类似“我这里有免费的kopi kaya roti, 大快朵颐随便吃。”
 
还要讲得更明白吗?呵呵...


这是典型的‘回向偈’了。这段留给尼姑和尚念吧。

这句哗出去,类似“我这里有免费的kopi kaya roti, 大快朵颐随便吃。”

谢谢老师回复。those 'guests' will they go away on their own? I did the above passage for two separate nights.

那么念心经不用回向就可以了对吗?如果只要念佛号是不是就念“南无观世音菩萨”而已?
 
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Point 5 Post #1945 (click here).


正确。白事终究是白事。


是有好几种方法可以"劈丧"。老师通常建议人去人多的地方。去咖啡店坐。Mustafa Centre最好,晚上11、12点还是很多人。

老师举个简单的例子。就好像人不知觉踩到scotch tape. 需要别人替你踩掉脚板的scotch tape的话,就要到人多的地方。The more people the merrier, the likelihood the scotch tape will come off from your foot effortlessly. 明白这个意思了吧?


你妈说的是正确。

人不能蹲在棺材旁哭。更不能对死人乱讲话。

看看新闻报道,抱棺材痛哭、眼泪滴到棺木、一直kiss棺材、“dear honey/baby, daddy and mummy always loves you”,“daddy and mummy owes you, please be my child again” blah blah blah... 这些真的很糟糕。
understood about the part on going to a crowded place! point noted :D
 
On our way now to TPY Shuang Lin Si to return 100 eggs to Zhu Sheng Niang Niang....
God bless And Baby Dust to all....
 
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Yeah God bless to all the babies! :)
Just want to share my good news to all. Today my wife & I went to see our Gynae & we got our full detailed scanning report on our baby! Gynae said everything is perfect! Results of the baby forming every physical parts are fine!
Thanks to toblerone 老师 & 南无观世音菩萨!
I hope everyone that see my thread can eat full vegetarian & chant sutra! 要好好的相信啊!My wife & I will continue to work hard again!
 
老师晚安,不好意思插播这帖。去完白事后,桌上的红线带走是否如法? 刚才去了白事,我拿走红线,之后丢掉。谢谢老师。

一桌会员唧唧喳喳, 嘻嘻哈哈, 吃吃喝喝。为了不说话,我只好看手机 be anti social, 然后乘家人打来时, slowly smoke out 去 pasar malam. 吩咐的都做了。感恩老师。
 
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老师晚安,不好意思插播这帖。去完白事后,桌上的红线带走是否如法? 刚才去了白事,我拿走红线,之后丢掉。谢谢老师。

一桌会员唧唧喳喳, 嘻嘻哈哈, 吃吃喝喝。为了不说话,我只好看手机 be anti social, 然后乘家人打来时, slowly smoke out 去 pasar malam. 吩咐的都做了。感恩老师。
from my understanding yes u take the red thread and then u "lose" it along the way
 
Hi toblerone老师,
We just attended the childbirth course from the hospital. I had a shock from the nutritionist! She was talking about the supplement that we had. One of the vitamin from the Prenatal multivitamin supplement we have is vitamin b12..she said vitamin b12 comes from seashell or from animals!!! 哪我们不是功亏一篑了吗????

Hi applegreen,
The vegetarian confinement nanny that u recommended to me told me that she wants my wife to take DOM during confinement. But the nutriutionist told us that not to take alcohol during confinement as it will affect the breastsmilk! So i am in diliema now..who should i listen to???....

Thanks all. :)
 
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Hi SteveAu,
Can try replacing with 汇集补腰精during confinement?
"汇集补腰精是纯素食,不添加酒精与蔗糖。因此,适合哺乳的母亲、7岁以上的儿童和对酒精过敏者饮用。"
Hope it helps!

Hi toblerone老师,
We just attended the childbirth course from the hospital. I had a shock from the nutritionist! She was talking about the supplement that we had. One of the vitamin from the supplement we have is vitamin b12..she said vitamin b12 comes from seashell or from animals!!! 哪我们不是功亏一篑了吗????

Hi applegreen,
The vegetarian confinement nanny that u recommended to me told me that she wants my wife to take DOM during confinement. But the nutriutionist told us that not to take alcohol during confinement as it will affect the breastsmilk! So i am in diliema now..who should i listen to???....

Thanks all. :)
 
Hi toblerone老师,
We just attended the childbirth course from the hospital. I had a shock from the nutritionist! She was talking about the supplement that we had. One of the vitamin from the supplement we have is vitamin b12..she said vitamin b12 comes from seashell or from animals!!! 哪我们不是功亏一篑了吗????

Hi applegreen,
The vegetarian confinement nanny that u recommended to me told me that she wants my wife to take DOM during confinement. But the nutriutionist told us that not to take alcohol during confinement as it will affect the breastsmilk! So i am in diliema now..who should i listen to???....

Thanks all. :)

Steveau

For DOM, you can boil it in water or other Soups that your wife drink for confinement so that the alcohol content will evaporate with Steam.

I am a breastfeeding mother myself. I breastfed for 22 months old and still doing so.
For DOM, actually if you do not want to boil with Soup, you can get your wife to drink first, and breastfeed 2 hours later.... or breastfeed first, then drink, and have 2 hours interval
 
Hi SteveAu,
No prob! During confinement, both parents must try to get enough rest as and when it allows as breastfeeding can be hectic for new parents even when you have a confinement lady to help around. Cos mummy still have to be awake every 2 hrs to breastfeed. Try to gain more rest now if possible :) 两夫妻加油哦!
QUOTE="SteveAu, post: 8027153, member: 178401"]Thanks alot bubblesun79 & faithmummy1706![/QUOTE]
 
Hi steveau, are you engaging the one I recommended? The cl noes wats to do, alcohol after heated up will evaporated. For cooked Dom, there wun be any issue. A lot of breastfeeding mum are taking DOM or glutinous rice wine during confinement. Do asked her to get some 宝婴丹 from msia as very hard to find one without animal content in Singapore.
 
Morning applegreen! :)

Yup i am engaging the one that u recommended. Glad to hear this!

Now only left the prenatal multivitamins pills..need to change to vegetarian 1.....so scary.
 
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Hi SteveAu, you can asked for non animal source. The gynae also prescibed me with calcium made from seashell and I told him I am a vegetarian and he changed it to another brand not made from seashell... You can always check and request for a change as seashell is deem as non animal by many as you do not kill to get the seashell.. It is actually a waste product made from oxyster shell..
 
地壳移动,多半有风/雨。

大暑初八庚子日过后,但愿风/雨之灾不是真的。

东北部的国家有影响。日本、台湾、香港、澳门在内。

Teacher, my parents keep telling me..if baby is cute & very guai and quiet..they ask me to be quiet...do not say that baby so cute & whatever remarks I made must be quiet...
听你妈的话,不会吃亏。:)

is it because of the 胎神 around?
孩子出世,即无胎神。
 
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老师您好。我一直在念心经,大悲咒和准提咒。现在已有5个月的生孕,这是第二胎,是个男宝宝。我很想跟老师学保胎经,不过我没有保握吃全素, 所以不敢承诺。早餐和午餐尽量吃素或肉边菜。我也承诺不吃羊肉(怀第一胎的时候我戒掉牛肉)

1。我每天上班在mrt念两次心经,一次大悲咒。rest of the day 念准提咒。我明白经有如药,念深什么经,念几次都重要。我没吃全素,如果没什么易处及少不想给胎儿带来害处。我这样做可以吗?
2。我有带老公和1.5 yr old daughter常去盛港崇义庙,照老师教的方式跟神明打招呼,拜拜。my daughter will follow us n kneel down n put her palms together but afterwards she stand up n walk/run in and out of the temple section. 我马上跟神明道歉,说孩子小不懂事,如有冒犯,请多多原谅。这样可以吗?还是暂时不要带孩子去好?

希望老师能够抽空回复,谢谢,感恩!
 
Hi xqivcy, welcome here :).

First of all, I would advice you to be full vegetarian. Being a full vegetarian is healthy & as the time pass by...you may started to feel that your life will be smoother or better. If not whatever effort & time you chant for your baby or yourself will be useless. Teacher got said before, all the sutras you chanted will all go to the dead animals you have eaten.

For the second question need to consult teacher.
 
老师您好。我一直在念心经,大悲咒和准提咒。现在已有5个月的生孕,这是第二胎,是个男宝宝。我很想跟老师学保胎经,不过我没有保握吃全素, 所以不敢承诺。早餐和午餐尽量吃素或肉边菜。我也承诺不吃羊肉(怀第一胎的时候我戒掉牛肉)
这样很好。最起码得肉边菜。很多人一生当中,没吃牛的,活着还是很健康。

Muslim不吃猪肉,信徒的宗教、意志、信念、坚定不倒。

中国人最糟糕,everywhere 100% sure got beef. In China, if you throw one stone in the crowd, that fellow sure eat beef. 中国文革之后,不迷信无鬼神论了。牛肉、狗肉、野味everything goes into the stomach.

牛肉是永远不能吃。Too much educated people they will argue whole day long about beef. They will only know, dog meat cannot eat. Fighting for cat's & dog's right. 晕了...

1。我每天上班在mrt念两次心经,一次大悲咒。rest of the day 念准提咒。我明白经有如药,念深什么经,念几次都重要。我没吃全素,如果没什么易处及少不想给胎儿带来害处。我这样做可以吗?
大乘汉传佛教的《梵网经菩萨戒本》、《楞伽经》、《涅盘经》、《楞伽经》以及《楞严经》已经记载,不应吃众生肉。Strictly prohibited in eating meat.

念上任何大乘汉传佛教的经典(包括跟观音菩萨有关的经(大悲咒、心经、八十八忏悔、普门品、妙法莲华经等等)),最佳效果最好是吃素了。

南传、东密的佛教, devotees are allow to eat meat. 南传、东密的佛教有他们的经文。南传、唐密,东密和藏密祖师大德说no problem. 所以,念这些佛门经不清口,也能接受。

别人说孕妇要吃新鲜鱼、鸡肉、胎儿健康,实在是一派胡言。There are tons of baboo (Sikhism)、vegan、vgetarian babies in the world. 不见得他们生出来的孩子是bo-doh、gorng-kiia、发育不全、营养不良等等。

To answer your question, 没吃素而念,出来的经是打折扣。Eg You work a job worth $50 per day, at the end of each day you received $5. 对妈妈和baby将来没坏处也没好处。

2。我有带老公和1.5 yr old daughter常去盛港崇义庙,照老师教的方式跟神明打招呼,拜拜。my daughter will follow us n kneel down n put her palms together but afterwards she stand up n walk/run in and out of the temple section. 我马上跟神明道歉,说孩子小不懂事,如有冒犯,请多多原谅。这样可以吗?还是暂时不要带孩子去好?
很好,带一家大小给菩萨神明普照啊!完全免费!就好像手机没电,needs to be recharged. 寺庙磁场好,多接近有益处。天天去拜、每次烧香、每次磕头,confirm每天charge.

小孩天真嘛,到处跑跑ok。说不定,她去跟“人”玩耍。说声apology没问题。
只要小孩/孕妇不要在寺庙办事(超度、跳童(扶乩)等等场合)出现就好。
 
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Toberone老师, 谢谢你的回复。我还在学习吃素,先从肉边菜起。其实一切在于自己的信念和定意,我会继续下去的。老师说小孩在寺庙跑进跑出,我可以向菩萨神明道歉,我就放心了。非常感恩老师解释那么多让大家从中学习,我会牢牢记住的。也谢谢steve au 的 advice and explanation. :)
 
Hi xqivcy, 不可气 :) 我和我的太太也都在努力当中。多亏Toblerone救了我们也给大家那么多宝贵的知识和分享!我们新加坡人真的很难度!没有半个人相信可是我们一定要有determination. My whole family & colleagues all think I go crazy. My wife & I still stand firm. Remember Karma control one's entire life!
 


toblerone 老师, 我有听说不能一直拜zhushengniang niang因为一直强求自己没有的,将来对自己和孩子都不好。 是真的吗?
 

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