Hi michkhoo
So so so sorry to hear that...sigh...you know you are the only one..my husband told he need a change of dish and it wasn't his fault to commit adultery cos that woman stripped naked. What lame excuses a will think man. And what he mean can't promise...when he took the marriage oath, he already promised! sigh...
Did you record ? did you keep all the text messages ? less than 6months? Did he say what he intends to do? Do you want to go counselling with HIM ? Do you love him still to be able to endure future adultery? Do you want to join back the workforce?
I mean, these are questions you have to face eventually. I feel so bad you have such a man, after all, you sacrifice everything, everything to stay home for the kids...HIS kids.
As much as I would discourage you divorce but ... he's a real asshole. Sorry to say.
Discuss with your parents and family, you will need their support and strength, gal. Just remember, you deserve a good life because you have done all you can for the family. And you are not alone gal, we are all sama sama so feel free to share with us here. Legally I can guide you as far as I can.
So, whatever decision you make after that, stand firm and don't waiver. Kids no matter how young they are, they can feel though they may not understand fully, So, spend valuable time with time, talking and talking, even repeating a 100x telling them you love them and will not leave them alone. They are scare to be abandon, this is their fear.
God bless...