jen_wong79
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This post is vastly different from my last 2 posts & definitely lengthy. I hope fellow mummies here can give me some good advice.
Things are certainty getting from bad to worst for me since my last post. I always think of myself as a strong-willed person. Until the events that happened recently wore me out. Part 1 : Firstly ... a few weeks back I had a very strong hunch something weird is gg on with my husband. I decided to check his laptop / HP & discovered that discovered that he has been surfing porn .. worst .. looking for contacts of pros on that sleazy sex forum (xxxxxboy) .. and the has the contact number for a few dozen pros on his wechat. After discovering this, I decided to confront him. He swore to me he has nvr visited any of these woman , he was just curious. I told him , he already had the intention of visiting one since he looked for their contacts. By doing that, he is showing major disrespect for me and the family. I told him he has totally broke my trust. He since promised to not visit those websites anymore. to earn back my trust. How do I know he kept his promises, I installed a spyware on his laptop secretly to keep track of what he does. That's where part 2 begins.
I found out he bought a spycam behind my back to spy on the maid. The maid is a major issue too, few months bk we discovered she was stealing from us and wore my clothes w/o my permission... We gave her another chance so now she is still with us. I have seen been monitoring the maid's behaviour very closely after that event. Everynow and then I check on her FB and mobile phone & *horror* I discovered she has been taking nude pics of herself! Since when, I dunno. Ytd , I was checking my husband's laptop , to check on his online activities. That's when I discovered he has a cam hidden in the study room (maid slps there). The screen shots from the spyware showed a few vids from a unknown device and I found that the husband has a few topless pics of the maid from a unknown device. Now my fear is , is he asking the maid for take those pics for him or the maid is a horny b*tch or he chance upon those pics while checking on her? I have not found those pics in his pc, I suspect he is keeping them somewhere .. what should I do now?
I really don't know to believe his words or trust my guts, As at now, with 2 kids in tow, heavy commitments and a bleak future ( I will be losing my job soon ). I have no strength to move on , on my own.
Things are certainty getting from bad to worst for me since my last post. I always think of myself as a strong-willed person. Until the events that happened recently wore me out. Part 1 : Firstly ... a few weeks back I had a very strong hunch something weird is gg on with my husband. I decided to check his laptop / HP & discovered that discovered that he has been surfing porn .. worst .. looking for contacts of pros on that sleazy sex forum (xxxxxboy) .. and the has the contact number for a few dozen pros on his wechat. After discovering this, I decided to confront him. He swore to me he has nvr visited any of these woman , he was just curious. I told him , he already had the intention of visiting one since he looked for their contacts. By doing that, he is showing major disrespect for me and the family. I told him he has totally broke my trust. He since promised to not visit those websites anymore. to earn back my trust. How do I know he kept his promises, I installed a spyware on his laptop secretly to keep track of what he does. That's where part 2 begins.
I found out he bought a spycam behind my back to spy on the maid. The maid is a major issue too, few months bk we discovered she was stealing from us and wore my clothes w/o my permission... We gave her another chance so now she is still with us. I have seen been monitoring the maid's behaviour very closely after that event. Everynow and then I check on her FB and mobile phone & *horror* I discovered she has been taking nude pics of herself! Since when, I dunno. Ytd , I was checking my husband's laptop , to check on his online activities. That's when I discovered he has a cam hidden in the study room (maid slps there). The screen shots from the spyware showed a few vids from a unknown device and I found that the husband has a few topless pics of the maid from a unknown device. Now my fear is , is he asking the maid for take those pics for him or the maid is a horny b*tch or he chance upon those pics while checking on her? I have not found those pics in his pc, I suspect he is keeping them somewhere .. what should I do now?
I really don't know to believe his words or trust my guts, As at now, with 2 kids in tow, heavy commitments and a bleak future ( I will be losing my job soon ). I have no strength to move on , on my own.