When I found out that I was pregnant, the first thing I did was to source for a CL. I read a good review on Chen Tai and decided to give her a call. I have decided to share my experiences with her (in point form)
Bathing For Baby
- insisted on bathing the baby in the toilet at the kitchen and refused to close the windows. what i did was to close the windows myself everyday. when my mum reminded her again she got upset and said to me "next time when u bath baby yourself then u do it in your room".
- temperature of water was too cold for baby (imo), she just used the water from the heater.
- my baby enjoys bathing, her credit!
- everytime after bathing, my baby will scream when putting on clothes in the room. Chen Tai applied a lot (12 drops) of ruyi oil on my baby's tummy every time. I told her not to do it and she insisted that the screaming had nothing to do with the oil and my baby was just being naughty.
Hygiene
- she only showered once a day till I realised that and told her to shower as many times as she could. I felt "eeesh" when she carried my baby after she cooked in the kitchen every time. the room that I allocated to her stinks and my poor baby was sleeping with her every night.
- she used only one towel and only washed her towel after two weeks, she 'dried' her towel in the room.
- my baby stinks after she carried her every time.
Cooking/Kitchen
- no breakfast or supper for me, just milo.
- did not like to cook pig kidney or pig stomach. when my mum bought them and asked her to prepare for me, she was very unhappy and complained to me when my mum left.
- she ransacked my whole kitchen and arranged everything according to her style which imo is very messy. (pots and pans in the cupboards were placed on the floor permanently)
- she bought stuff that I already have because she found mine unsuitable for her. (stool, baskets, knife, pepper, sugar)
- she also bought flour to make 'suan pan zi' and 'mee hoon kuey', ingredients to make spag blah blah. I am fine if she wanted to be creative but not to the extend that she left my baby crying all the time while she was busy being creative in the kitchen. whenever I pacified my baby while she is busy in the kitchen, she got very upset and told me she could handle the baby and the cooking.
- she cooked for hubby, her credit! (but creating another dish for hubby imo is not necessary)
- she left pots unwashed in the kitchen at night and go to bed, hubby will wash them every night.
- plates and utensils that she washed were still oily and full of food stains.
- she wanted me to buy a machine so that she can make soya bean for me, I refused to but she kept forcing my hubby to buy till I became firm and told her off.
Others
- during feeding, she kept pushing the bottle to make my baby drink without giving her time to rest and when I told her not to do that, she insisted that she is not pushing and was my baby sucking very hard.
- she wanted to watch the 9pm show every night before sleeping at 10pm. I was fine with that but when my baby cried she would just carry her and sit in front of the tv, eyes fixed to the tv...regardless if my baby was hungry or needed to change diaper.
- after a week of watching the 9pm show, she told us that she loves watching news and the 7pm show. she would make me take my dinner at 5pm so that she had enough time to wash up and watch tv by 630pm. I told her repeatedly that I wanted my dinner at 630pm but still...
- when my inlaws came to visit, she said aloud 'here so many people baby how to sleep'
Many will ask, why I did not tell her my preferences about the way she does things. I did all the time but her reply would be "I did so many confinements, all of the mummies are pleased with my way of doing stuff". I let her have her ways most of the time as I did not want to offend her. I did not even dare to raise my voice at her. I needed her to help me with my baby while I rested and I was afraid she might vent on my baby. After two weeks I started doing housework. She was very upset about me cleaning up after her but I explained that I like things cleaned my way. I could not stand it anymore.
I bought a ticket for her to go back home a few days earlier to end my misery. After that she still sms me very often to complain about the mummy she was serving at that time and wanted me to write a good review for her online. I blocked her number from my hp and she called my hubby asking why I could not be contacted...
Bathing For Baby
- insisted on bathing the baby in the toilet at the kitchen and refused to close the windows. what i did was to close the windows myself everyday. when my mum reminded her again she got upset and said to me "next time when u bath baby yourself then u do it in your room".
- temperature of water was too cold for baby (imo), she just used the water from the heater.
- my baby enjoys bathing, her credit!
- everytime after bathing, my baby will scream when putting on clothes in the room. Chen Tai applied a lot (12 drops) of ruyi oil on my baby's tummy every time. I told her not to do it and she insisted that the screaming had nothing to do with the oil and my baby was just being naughty.
Hygiene
- she only showered once a day till I realised that and told her to shower as many times as she could. I felt "eeesh" when she carried my baby after she cooked in the kitchen every time. the room that I allocated to her stinks and my poor baby was sleeping with her every night.
- she used only one towel and only washed her towel after two weeks, she 'dried' her towel in the room.
- my baby stinks after she carried her every time.
Cooking/Kitchen
- no breakfast or supper for me, just milo.
- did not like to cook pig kidney or pig stomach. when my mum bought them and asked her to prepare for me, she was very unhappy and complained to me when my mum left.
- she ransacked my whole kitchen and arranged everything according to her style which imo is very messy. (pots and pans in the cupboards were placed on the floor permanently)
- she bought stuff that I already have because she found mine unsuitable for her. (stool, baskets, knife, pepper, sugar)
- she also bought flour to make 'suan pan zi' and 'mee hoon kuey', ingredients to make spag blah blah. I am fine if she wanted to be creative but not to the extend that she left my baby crying all the time while she was busy being creative in the kitchen. whenever I pacified my baby while she is busy in the kitchen, she got very upset and told me she could handle the baby and the cooking.
- she cooked for hubby, her credit! (but creating another dish for hubby imo is not necessary)
- she left pots unwashed in the kitchen at night and go to bed, hubby will wash them every night.
- plates and utensils that she washed were still oily and full of food stains.
- she wanted me to buy a machine so that she can make soya bean for me, I refused to but she kept forcing my hubby to buy till I became firm and told her off.
Others
- during feeding, she kept pushing the bottle to make my baby drink without giving her time to rest and when I told her not to do that, she insisted that she is not pushing and was my baby sucking very hard.
- she wanted to watch the 9pm show every night before sleeping at 10pm. I was fine with that but when my baby cried she would just carry her and sit in front of the tv, eyes fixed to the tv...regardless if my baby was hungry or needed to change diaper.
- after a week of watching the 9pm show, she told us that she loves watching news and the 7pm show. she would make me take my dinner at 5pm so that she had enough time to wash up and watch tv by 630pm. I told her repeatedly that I wanted my dinner at 630pm but still...
- when my inlaws came to visit, she said aloud 'here so many people baby how to sleep'
Many will ask, why I did not tell her my preferences about the way she does things. I did all the time but her reply would be "I did so many confinements, all of the mummies are pleased with my way of doing stuff". I let her have her ways most of the time as I did not want to offend her. I did not even dare to raise my voice at her. I needed her to help me with my baby while I rested and I was afraid she might vent on my baby. After two weeks I started doing housework. She was very upset about me cleaning up after her but I explained that I like things cleaned my way. I could not stand it anymore.
I bought a ticket for her to go back home a few days earlier to end my misery. After that she still sms me very often to complain about the mummy she was serving at that time and wanted me to write a good review for her online. I blocked her number from my hp and she called my hubby asking why I could not be contacted...
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